Courtesy:R B KISHORE
The book, "The six husbands every wife should have" (by - Dr. Steven Craig) talks about how a husband has to constantly grow, evolve and renew himself at least six times, by the time he turns 60....For as people grow, their relationship and the relationship's needs change...:) (The book's premise is that women do it naturally as they become home-keepers and mothers and grandmothers.)
*1st husband* - At the time of marriage, the husband has to be fun, carefree, full of dreams and potential...The couple should make each other laugh and feel good about each other.
*2nd husband* - After a couple of years, the husband has to grow out of his carefree, fun and life-of-every-party ways. He needs to get established in his career and begin preparing for a family.
*3rd husband* - When the kids come, the husband has to learn patience, be home as much as possible, and scale down all his extracurricular activities.
*4th husband* - As children grow, the husband has to again reinvent himself and be more focused on kids - putting them first just as the wife does. The wife needs a 'daddy' more than a 'honey'. The motto must be 'family comes first'.
*5th husband* - This husband needs to help children become gradually independent; supporting them through their mistakes and growing-up pangs. He needs to be responsible and trustworthy.
*6th husband* - By the time children leave home, the wife becomes more confident and assertive. Now she doesn't need a strong-but-silent man whom she can lean on - instead the husband has to become vulnerable and sensitive, who opens his heart to her and values her as an equal - leaning on her for strength at times.
The book brings to light that the very qualities a wife initially loves in her man are the very things that become a thorn in their marriage during later years - if the man doesn't outgrow them.
For marriage is a lifelong relationship that must feed the family's emotional needs as those needs change.
A life-partner has to continuously reinvent himself/ herself. It not only makes our marriage better, but also makes us better people - and our life more fuller.
*Problems in marriage occur not because we are not good people - but because we don't grow up.*
Have a great day !!!!!!
S. Srinivasan
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